Relationship Coaching Through the Deida Work

In last week’s discussion about our history and its role in how we relate in intimacy, I spoke about the importance of breathing.

This week, I am offering an actual exercise you can do to bring more awareness to your breath. Remember, the breath is your life force. It is the first thing you did when you were born, and exhaling will be the last thing you do when you die.

Imagine your breath as a gift to your partner and all beings. Imagine your breath pervading not just the room but all of existence. Use your breath to open your partner’s body and heart. Fill them with the force of your love as though you were breathing through their body – heart, belly and genitals.

The more ‘full’ your breath is, the more open is the front of your body. Look in the mirror. Inhale fully. Notice your diaphragm expanding as you inhale and your belly rising. Feel your chest expand and open wide. Through a full and relaxed breath, you will bring energy down to the front of your body, which will allow you to be more present and more focused. Breathing shallowly usually is an indication of a busy mind.

If you look closely, people who have charisma in part, draw attention because their breath is full and that life force is magnifying their presence.

I will pose to you the same questions I did last week: In this moment, are you inhaling deeply? Is your belly rising and falling with each breath? The belly or solar plexus is the power point in the body. When you are breathing fully into your belly, it revitalizes this area and you feel stronger and more self-assured.

This probably sounds very elementary, but the more you bring your attention to your breath, the more you will realize that in general you are very likely not breathing fully, and in fact, rather shallowly. The more shallow your breathing, the less oxygen that enters your body and the less life force you have.

If you start bringing attention to your breath when you are interacting with your chosen partner, you will start seeing a difference in how you relate. You can’t help but feel more alive and more present.

Full breathing is a practice. The more you bring your attention to consciously breathe full, the more natural it will become to you. This is the key first step to creating a connection with you and all beings.