Relationship Coaching Through the Deida Work

Recently, I came across an article about research done by University of Haifa School of Social Work that explains how the presence of one’s father impacts intimacy in adulthood. Orphans or children of divorce have a much lower rate of being involved in intimate relationships than children whose parents stayed married.

I would like to add to this research the fact that a father may stay in a marriage, but if he is not someone with a sense of purpose, that too can have a detrimental effect on the children and their future intimate relationships.

I have encountered countless numbers of adults who experience difficulty in engaging in an intimate relationship – they are unable or unwilling to express their emotions, have fears of being abandoned or being controlled, or they could even be overly controlling. The list could fill many pages. Yet, they are people whose parents have been together many years, and in many cases are still together. One of the catches is that their parents are more friends than lovers.

In Enlightened Intimacy, one learns to develop a relationship where partners are not only friends but also lovers and teaching partners. They are all necessary elements of a conscious relationship that will inevitably serve not only the couple, but their children, friends, family and the world.