Relationship Coaching Through the Deida Work

Intimate Communion is David Deida's first book. It deals with a style of intimacy that involves deep passion, deep emotion and deep understanding, what I would call Enlightened Intimacy. When a man and a woman embrace one another without guarding themselves, protecting or holding back, they naturally transmit an extraordinary force of love, sexual energy and oneness. After a period of time, many intimacies become at best a loving friendship where both partners desire something deeper.

This book explains how to cultivate, sustain and grow the depth of connection that arises at the start of a relationship - the attractive power of heartfelt passion and spiritual vitality.

Over the last 40 years, there has been a new level of personal freedom established for men and women to feel into and express both their masculine and feminine qualities. This period has led to great changes in society and, most importantly, legislation to protect women's rights has brought forth opportunities for women to be free of the fixed traditional roles that held them in a place since the dawn of civilization.

No one knew how these changes would affect the way people engaged in their intimate relationships. Some of the changes have been for the better and at the same time, there has been an unexpected consequence. In our attempt to create a society where people are whole and balanced, we have also suffered an unplanned side effect of this well-intentioned movement.

Many men have become stuck in a vague transition point between old models of masculine and a supposed more balanced identity, but find they are unable to be fully present in their relationships and in their lives.

Modern men and women have discovered that equality by itself does not make for a passionate and growing relationship. Enlightened Intimacy deals with how we can liberate the mysterious force of love that lays yearning in our hearts.