Relationship Coaching Through the Deida Work

I recently met a friend at a macrobiotic restaurant in New York City called ‘Souen’. It has been there for over thirty years and is excellent macrobiotic fare. A page on their menu has an explanation of the macrobiotic philosophy. They emphasized the need for balance in diet and in life – a balance of Yin and Yang.

Balance of Yin and Yang is an image that if you apply it to an intimate relationship, you can see the benefits. If at any moment, two partners are both in their masculine or both in their feminine simultaneously, you do not have the extremes of polar opposites. For there to be polarity, attraction, aliveness in an intimate relationship, one person must be willing to animate their masculine, and the other to animate their feminine. Understanding the characteristics masculine and feminine is essential to have this divine meeting between He and She.

For instance, if a woman who has been leading the troops all day in the office, and brings this disposition home, you will have two masculine forces competing in the relationship.

Likewise, if the masculine partner has a very artistic job that is focused on flow, creativity and movement, he has to leave that style of relating at the office or else you have two feminine energies going with the flow. It might be pleasurable to be in this flow, but there is not going to be much attraction.